It’s easy to use the practice of mutuality with others to mask a lack of the same deep honor and respect for ourselves. Mutuality with others is an outward behavior, it’s obvious, a public expression—others can see, experience, and respond. In community consciously practicing mutuality, we place a great deal of emphasis on learning to engage in this outward mutuality. We feel success as we become practiced at displaying heartfelt mutuality with one another. It’s visible and beautiful; we deserve to feel good about it.
How we relate to ourselves, on the other hand, takes place in the private inner rooms of our awareness, where no one else can know what’s happening. It’s up to the individual to explore, to become aware, to feel into it. We don’t have to show it, and generally we become pretty skilled at not fully revealing what goes on in there, even to ourselves.
With attention to a self-focused mutuality practice we can learn to apply a true, humble, and ever-deepening love and care for ourselves—just as we are. As we reveal that light, the benefits touch not only our own lives, but all life.
Art and Practice
Don Freas is an artist, writer, and poet in Olympia, Washington.